The Trans/GCF Squabble

I’m a trans-woman who transitioned in 1993.
It’s been almost thirty years and I’ve been subjected to all of the indignities that women the world over suffer with, being talked over, mansplained to, ignored as insignificant, sexually harassed, and raped, both by intimidation and force.
I must say, at this point, that I am a little uncomfortable in the presence of an obvious trans-woman.
The difference between me and a
" terf" is that I look*honestly*, at why I have that reaction and see that it’s something within me that is causing it. I put the feeling aside and remain kind and gentle, with compassionate understanding, because that’s what every living being deserves.

I will admit to more inner vigilance than I would have with a cis-woman, but only until I get to know the transperson better.

A terf is uncomfortable in the presence of a trans-woman, but refuses, never even thinks that it has anything to do with *her*. She’s suffering under the mistaken idea that so many people are. That mistaken idea is that other people *cause* our feelings, our emotions.
People suffering under that delusion always try to explain what’s wrong with the person in question, never what’s wrong with themselves to cause the reaction.
With some people the denial goes into extreme defensiveness that can devolve into…