Thank you Jane.

I have to tell you, so you can stop “talking to a brick wall.”

Hurt people, hurt people.

The “GCFs”, or “terfs", are suffering from the same affliction that so many people are; they are thinking and behaving in the same way as the examples they had in childhood.

Children who are exposed, repeatedly, to hard-hearted, cruel, people, many of whom excuse their behavior by calling it, “tough love”, saying things like, “My mother beat me and I turned out okay!”, grow up to be the same way. This is, of course, not to discount the extreme effects of childhood sexual trauma…

All parents should remember the truism that I’ve heard all of my life, from my mother,(b.1924), and her mother,(b.1900), “Children don’t do as you say. Children do as you do.”

When you see anyone for who they really are, you are seeing the people who had the biggest influence on them from the ages of birth, to about age six or eight…

My mother was the closest to unconditional love and empathy of anyone I’ve ever known. One particular older sister was a malignant narcissist, possibly with psychopathic features.

I always “channel” my mother, except when I am in desperate circumstances, then my sister’s example can be helpful.

As I have aged, I’ve become very unlikely to have to use my sister’s example. I have been sober and clean for over two years now.

I don’t want to channel Rachel except in the most dire of circumstances, because the shame and remorse is severe.

The prospect of “turning off” my empathy and compassion is no longer worth the price to me. At this point in my life I would simply not fight back. However, in defense of another, I can’t be responsible for what happens to the bully in question…

Your innocence is refreshing. I pray that you are able to keep it.

--weezi--💖🙏🏼💜🙏🦄