I’ve felt that same discomfort…back when I was newly transitioned, and continuing through the years, as I kept numbing myself with alcohol and drugs, not progressing in my emotional and spiritual growth.

These days I know that the character in drag is not thinking of, in fact isn’t even aware of my existence. In fact, though you seem to be hinting at wanting men to not use that comedic device, in deference to transwomen’s insecurities, what needs to change is us.

At some point, after I had quit all alcohol and drugs, and began the daily work of growing, emotionally and spiritually, I came to realize that they are 'operating' within their own 'bubble of consciousness’.

Even around people who do know me, people around me in daily life, I learned that, no matter what, my feelings are a direct result of what I think, how I feel, about myself.

If other people can make me feel a certain way, it’s me that is giving their opinions the gravitas to effect me. In reality, I’m following the training, the grooming, that others have programmed into me, in a mostly effective attempt to control me.

When I stop participating in this dynamic, their “influence” fades away…to nothing.

In the early years, post transition, I was experiencing the insecurity that I had been “programmed” to have.

Breaking out of the programming of a lifetime is not an easy or quick process.

It is, however, more than worth the effort.

I never recommend that anyone join any organized religion, but I have found a lot of truth in buddhism. Many of the teachings, and especially the meditation, have allowed me to throw off many of the shackles that our Patriarchal Dominance Hierarchy and it’s attendant rape-culture, gender binary and hetero-normative sexuality have tried,(rather successfully), to bind us with.

Those shackles seem unbreakable, until you find that they were illusory all along…

Peace Love Kindness Respect the more you give the more you get 😍 start with yourself 😉 because you deserve it ❤️🙏🏼

--weezi--💖🙏🏼💜🙏