Interesting.

From what I’ve seen online, I gather that a lot of transwomen don’t feel comfortable in the company of cis-women.

I suppose that was true for me, 20 to 25 years ago, but I hadn’t considered the question in, literally, decades.

I think that there’s a lot to be said for the difference that “passing” makes.

After learning counter-tenor in 1995, I’ve never been mistaken for a man.

1995 —

I suppose that having been raised in a home with no male influences had a considerable effect, as well. My father died when I was 8 years old. I had my mother, who never dated, much less remarried, and three older sisters.

My friends are all “cis-women”. They had no idea that I was transgender, until I “came out” a few years ago. I decided that it was the right thing to do, to support transgender people, as a whole. I didn’t lose any friends and no one treats me any different.

I haven’t had any problems with anyone. If I was dependant on working for a living, there may have been some problem, but we’ll never know. (In that case I probably wouldn’t have “come out”.)

I’ve long recognized that beginning trans-women exhibit many of the same behaviors that young girls do, when they begin to develop obvious secondary sexual characteristics.

They want to display their newfound femininity.

The problem with that is rather obvious. Beginning trans-women are not young girls. This ensures that cis-people are not going to be pleased, to say the least.

Young girls,(I have a daughter who is now 34), have parents or other older people who will try to temper their behavior, “dial back”, if you will, the more exhibitionist tendencies.

A fully grown adult has usually little, if any, restraint.

There is, of course, also the fact that the beginning trans-woman has been trying to “see the girl inside” for so long, that she is almost always “seeing” a much more femine appearance than others do when they see her.

There is only one “cure” for those difficulties, time. Lots of time.

Edit; I hesitated to mention that, also, there is a problem that cannot be overcome, even with extensive surgery. Some males have a bone-structure that is so very masculine that they can never possibly “pass” for a woman, though if they get their voice right, they still have a chance.

Most transwomen have been yearning for this change for years. When, finally, they begin to feel that it is within their grasp, they are incredibly impatient, and rush out well before they are, hmm, “suitable”(?), for public consumption.

Not to mention that most of them tend to discount the importance of the sound of their voice, overconfident in their impatience to proceed.

I can share the best way to get a voice that is suitable for public consumption, but it takes a good deal of daily, consistent, work.

“Male to female voice change.” by WeeziSbaby https://link.medium.com/24sKkXx2o7

Thank you Perry, for your work ❤️🙏🏼

Peace Love Kindness Respect the more you give the more you get 😍 start with yourself 😉 because you deserve it ❤️🙏🏼

Oh! This is me last year…

I’ve never had any kind of surgery, implants, fillers or injections, just hormone therapy.