I can only speak from my own experience in this area, but perhaps I can provide some perspective.

It’s been said that the brain is the primary sexual organ. When male bodied, I was not *driven* by sexual desire, but it was a readily available source of comfort. There seemed to be a physical nature to sex that was kindled very, very easily.

After 26 years of experience as a woman, I find that the desire for sex doesn’t come automatically. My libido is much more cerebrally driven. Rather than almost instant arousal, mental and emotional conditions, such as mental and emotional intimacy, leading up to physical intimacy, are required for the necessary desire that I find essential to achieve a real state of arousal.

Another situation can cause arousal in me. It involves being dominated by a strong man. Since all of my experiences with men of that nature have ended badly, I’m now only interested in the desire that true, multi-level intimacy provides.

Libido is still available for the trans-woman, it just doesn’t come as easily as it did with high levels of testosterone. We must explore our feelings more intimately, more deeply.

I recommend that all transwomen read only things written by cis-women, for a period of, at least, several years…No matter how well intentioned, men like Freud and Jung are still men…there is great similarity in the overt and obvious patterns of thought and feeling, amongst all human beings, but more subtle nuance in the difference between male and female thought and feeling. Men, no matter how brilliant, when analyzing women’s mental processes, are not equipped with the prerequisite experience to speak with any authority, especially in the subtler nuances that they have never understood. They, no matter how brilliant, absolutely lack the capacity, period.

These differences don’t come automatically, with a change in hormones…experience is required.

Perhaps I had a “head-start”, growing up with no male role models, only my mother and three older sisters…

Remember, read *only* work by cis-women. (except, of course, mine😉).

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