After many years of experience, with an unknowable number of men, and it would take some serious thought to come up with an estimated number of women,(I was a call girl in the 90s), for me, it’s about connection, knowing your sexual partner, starting with *getting* to know them.

The *getting to know* stage can be very pleasurable, when we are both fully invested in each other’s pleasure.

And yes, I have had plenty of experience with the “big boys”. They, most of them, do seem to think that they have nothing to do, other than bring “it” with them.

Depending on the person, penetrative sex is not really necessary, though a lot of people seem to be stuck in that rut.(pun intended). 😎🥰